The Gay Vegans

Who is your “them”?

I recently posted a note about a teenager who identified himself as gay dying from suicide. He had left a note that included statements saying he couldn’t handle the hate and abuse any longer.

Words are powerful. Actions are powerful. “Those people.” “Them.”

I also have recently been along the border of Mexico, in Tijuana, trying to help people who have fled their home and are trying to find a safe place in the US. I’m not surprised, but the vile words used towards these people shook me. I was posting some news on Twitter and searched for #caravan and was brought to a world of so much hatred towards people that the ones posting didn’t even know!

“Those people.” “Them.”

I get that people disagree. I get that you might not like Republicans or immigrants or gay people or gun owners. Them. And I believe that we all have more in common than not. I don’t have to demonize you just because I disagree with you.

I disagree with those that vilify and attack immigrants or those wanting to come into the US. I will disagree, and then take action to support immigrants. It’s that easy. Sure, those who attack immigrants will then attack me on social media. I can handle it. Cowards thrive in the anonymous comments of social media.

And while all of this is going on, I have to continue to look in the mirror and make sure I don’t have a “them”. Whether it’s a group of people or an individual, I need to always be sure that my words and actions don’t hurt others.

Thanks for reading.

About Dan Hanley

Gay and vegan in the burbs (of Los Angeles). I blog about veganism, equality, compassion, activism, politics, spirituality, and our awesome life experiences. The "s" includes my husband, Mike! I want this blog to be a tool to build bridges among communities and to inspire people to get involved and vote.

1 comment

  1. Hi Dan and Mike,

    Harmony. Love. Connection. I see humans as being part of me, and my part of them, more and more daily. Even if someone drips with fear and terror, manifesting as anger and hate and prejudice….I still do my best to accept it although I am no Dali Lama LOL! When we all see ourselves as being One, celebrating differences as being factors that make life interesting….”them” becomes “us”.

    Thanks for sharing 🙂


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